Lives of Women

Anakena Year 8

International School of Toulouse 2002

 

 

Historians disagree about the lives of married women in the period 1500-1750. Some historians think that women had a hard life, had to do a lot of labour, and were often brutally treated. However, other historians think that married women had more freedom than people thought, that they weren’t treated that badly, and that they did not always obey their husbands.

Domestic Conduct books and Advice Manuals can be used to support both interpretations. One particular one was written Anthony Fitzherbert in 1523. It can be used to support the first interpretation because it lists that women are supposed to “sweep the house, set the table, put everything in the house in good order, milk the cows, get the children up, dress them, make their husband’s breakfast, dinner and supper, send corn to the mill, make butter and cheese, feed the pigs and poultry. They must do this every single day. In March, a woman makes her garden, makes sure that her garden is weeded, sows flax and hemp, and makes her husband and herself clothes out of the wool she sheared off her husband’s sheep. It is a wife’s job to winnow the grain, wash and wring the clothes, make hay, reap corn, help her husband to fill the muck cart, drive the plough, load hay and corn onto the carts, go to the market, sell the goods, and buy anything needed for the house.” However there are some parts of the manual that support the second interpretation. For example, it is written that, “the husband must tell his wife how much he has spent, just as she must. Husband and wife will not prosper if they are not honest to each other.”

 

The evidence from Pictures and Descriptions suggests that poor women may have had more equality with men than rich women. Also, a letter from a Dutch stranger in England in that era suggests that married women in England had more freedom than in other countries (the 2nd Interpretation). Here is an excerpt from his letter: “married women in England were a lot more free than in Spain as they were not shut up, they could go to the market, they were well-dressed, fond of taking it easy. […] They spent time walking, riding, playing cards and visiting friends. […] That is why England is called the paradise of women.”

 

I find that diaries support both interpretations. Here is some evidence from Samuel Pepys’ diary that supports both interpretations: “I slept till almost 7 o’clock. Some angry words with my wife about her neglecting to keep the house clean, I calling her a “beggar” and she calling me a “prick-louse”. To my office. Very merry and well pleased with my wife.

I was very angry and began to find fault with my wife for not commanding the servants, as she ought. She giving me a cross answer, I did strike her over her left eye such a blow as the poor wretch did cry out. But her spirit was such that she scratched and bit me.

And so to home, and there finding my wife in a bad mood for not my dining at home. I did give her a pull by the nose and left. She followed me in a devilish manner, so I got her in the garden out of hearing (to avoid shame) and managed to calm her. Then I walked with her in the garden, and so to supper, pretty good friends and so to bed.”

The first sentence of the diary, states that Pepys slept till almost 7 o’clock. This means that men could sleep in but women could not because of all the work they had to do (first interpretation). Then, it is written down that he called her a “beggar” (1st interpretation), but she had the courage to stand up to him and call him a “prick-louse” (2nd interpretation). Because she gave him a cross answer when he reprimanded her for not ordering the servants correctly, he stroke her over her left eye (1st interpretation). But, once again, she stood up to him and scratched and bit him (2nd interpretation).

       Another diary we can borrow evidence from, is Adam Eyre’s. This diary supports the 2nd interpretation more than the 1st one. Here is proof:

“Adam was not very good with money and wanted to sell some of his wife’s land to pay off his depts. She refused to hand it over.” The fact that his wife wouldn’t hand over her land is interesting because the law stated that when a woman got married, she had to hand over to her husband all the land she owned. This supports the 2nd interpretation: women did sometimes stand up to their husbands.

“Susan [Adam’s wife] swore at her husband when he stood on her sore foot. Adam said that he would not share a bed with her until she took more notice of him.” This piece of information supports both interpretations. The fact that Susan swore at her husband makes it seem as though she was equal to Adam (interpretation 2). But the fact that he wouldn’t let her sleep in their bed until she began to take more notice of him, clearly supports the first interpretation because it makes it seem as though men were highly superior to women and had the power to “ban” women from their bed.

“Adam stayed home all day because Susan would not let him go out and play bowls.” This supports the 2nd interpretation because it means that women sometimes held their husbands back from amusements because they thought they (the women) were doing all the work.

 

Historians will always continue to disagree about the lives of married women even if they are using the same sources because if Year 8 students of the I.S.T. can find as many different views that support both interpretations in a single source, than historians will most certainly be finding different views all the time. Also, with so many little questions from personal diaries and so on, we end up with very long, very hard-to-answer big questions, that may remain un-answered forever…

      

Anakena    Year 8